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  Should i go?

  by MsGrowingGirl20 in

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  so, a good friend of mine, a pentecostal christian, invited me to go to a retreat with her church.

  we're the same age-19 years.

  we were friends before i became a witness and she was always patient and caring with me especially throughout my arrogant spell as a witness.

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  go if you want, although I find the Pentecostal Christians to be almost as restrictive and pushy as the dubs.
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  Birthdays & Christmas

  by Rattigan350 in

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  2. beliefs

  what is the deal with people criticizing jws because they don't celebrate birthdays or christmas?.

  it is as if when someone is born, from a baby, to a child, teen, adult; that one has a responsiblity to celebrate christmas (and i thought it was a free country); and others have a responsiblity to celebrate others' anniversary of one's birth.. i don't get the criticisms as if celebrating either is a great thing and the not celebrating is a bad thing.. data on star trek said that he does not understand why people celebrate their birthdays - a day one can not possibly remember.. what are you actually celebrating?

  the fact that you made it another year?

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  finally awake

  Well why bother doing anything? You are just going to die eventually anyway. It's all pointless and futile in the long run.

  *OR* you can decide to enjoy yourself while you are here, and try to make life enjoyable for the people around you as well. Even if it's ultimately pointless, you might as well enjoy it.
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  At what age do you think people should start dating? What age did you start?

  by MsGrowingGirl20 in

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  hey guys!

  i hope that everyone is still holding on amidst all the struggles.. i know that there are parents, older ones, middle age and younger ones here.. sooo, my question isss- what age did you start dating and what age do you truly believe people should start dating?

  and why?.

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  I started dating when I was 12 or 13. I didn't discuss it with my mom because I knew she wouldn't approve. I don't think there is any way to prevent kids from forming attachments with other kids, so forbidding dating is not particularly helpful.
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  Not sure what to do next

  by magotan in

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  i'm 19, and i'm still currently a jw.

  i guess i'm a born-in, or whatever you guys call it.

  i've had some serious issues with the faith at the moment, and sexuality is a huge part.

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  Welcome! I have young sons, and when we were in the borg I used to think about what would happen if one (or more) of them were gay. I couldn't stand the thought of having to shun my kid. I don't have any additional advice, but I do wish you good luck and happiness.
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  "Witness Patients Often Do Better" - Erm......

  by snare&racket in

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  took a peek at the new jw.org and soon got angry :(.

  "witness patients often do better!".

  how was i that dumb, are people that dumb?

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  Every patient would be better off if all the doctors and nurses were super careful all the time and every effort was made to prevent complications. However, there are situations that absolutely require a blood transfusion for the patient to survive and it's irresponsible to suggest otherwise.
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  Sex and drugs in university

  by Xanthippe in

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  2. beliefs

  so this jw friend that got in touch out of the blue a few months ago after 24 years of shunning us agrees that the borg is not keen on university.

  it is so difficult to keep to your principles because of all the immorality there according to her.

  yes same old story we have been hearing for years.. if that is the case they should be fine with distance learning.

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  I went to a state school well known for its party atmosphere. The primary reason I chose to live on campus was that I could party and carouse without parental supervision, even though my mom's house was only 30 minutes from campus. I was 17 and really wanted out from under the constant supervision. So, the Society isn't completely wrong about the atmosphere on campus (at some schools at least) and motivations of many students. Had I been less motivated to be academically successful and get on the road to a solid career, I could have easily ended up flunking out or developing a serious substance abuse problem.
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  Would you read your child's diary?

  by DATA-DOG in

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  this is obviously a question for parents.

  i have made my decision, but i am interested in your views and feelings.

  if you are a young person, i would be interested in your thoughts and feelings too.

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  My mother read my diary when I was a teen. I was horrified and offended at the time, but later came to realize that she had legitimate reason to be worried about me. She punished me severely for what she read in my diary, which didn't seem quite fair at the time, but I certainly deserved punishment for doing the things I documented in my diary.

  As a mother now, I wouldn't read my kid's diary unless I was seriously concerned about what they were up to. I wouldn't volunteer that I had done so to my kid though.
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  What Are Words That You Or Others Have A Hard Time Pronouncing?

  by minimus in

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  it drives me crazy when people say "altimers disease".. or jewlery.. .

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  Massachusetts. It always comes out "Massa two shxxs" instead
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  LA Times: Many researchers taking a different view of pedophilia

  by AndersonsInfo in

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  2. child-abuse

  http://articles.latimes.com/2013/jan/14/local/la-me-pedophiles-20130115/2.

  many researchers taking a different view of pedophiliapedophilia once was thought to stem from psychological influences early in life.

  now, many experts view it as a deep-rooted predisposition that does not change.january 14, 2013|by alan zarembo, los angeles timesas a young boy, paul christiano loved the world of girls the way they danced, how their spindly bodies tumbled in gymnastics.

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  I read that article and thought about the implications. Not too long ago, similar articles were being published about homosexuality and how that appears to be hardwired from birth. The difference, of course, is that sex between consenting adults doesn't hurt anyone. I don't know how to solve the problem of pedophila, whether it's caused by nature or environment. The urges of adults, no matter how powerful, cannot be allowed to destroy the lives of children.
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  A word of caution

  by Socrateswannabe in

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  please forgive me if you consider this to be presumptuous, i know i am an ultra-newbie here.

  but, i see a lot of threads on jwn that read something like, "what is your dog's name" or "where's your favorite vacation spot", "what's your special name for your spouse", etc.

  i give the opening posters of these threads the benefit of the doubt that they are creating them simply for entertainment purposes.

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  I don't care if the dubs find out what I post here.